Non-negotiable

Integrity (n): truth, honesty, reliability

In any relationship - work, love, family or friendship there are always non-negotiable things. Those things that you do not compromise on and are such a part of who you are. Recent events in my life have brought the issue of non-negotiables into sharp focus. It has also left me deeply uncomfortable being around this particular person as I sense that their analysis of this matter is very different from mine.

I know we always say give people a second chance. I fear however just by this person’s attitude to the particular dodgy thing he did, that there is no second chance that would make it easier to handle.

Second chances are difficult when trying to cultivate an intimate and authentic relationship with someone, especially when you have to consider giving them so early in the whole thing. Second chances are for when there has been some trust developed so that you can excuse subsequent lapses of judgement, as just that, lapses. But I have no such reference point. I do not know if this is how this person does things. Or whether it was just a lapse, a slip. All I know is that integrity is non-negotiable in my book.

Sadly this is a case of another one bites the dust. Back to the drawing board I suppose.